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The Beginning


“I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.” ~C.S. Lewis

My husband Chris and I have four biological children. We were content and were certain that we had finished building our family. In the summer of 2004, Chris had an encounter with God. He was told that we had a daughter in China and that her name was Isabelle. After sitting on this information with a heart full of fear and angst, he shared with me what God had said to him on that day in June 2004. Admittedly, I was shocked and dumbfounded; we had never even considered adoption before and honestly thought it was something families did who could not have children naturally. But God planted a seed in both of our hearts that soon grew into a passion and love for the orphaned children in China. We came to realize that we did have a daughter in China, in fact we are now bringing home our third child from China, this time a little boy :)

Psalms 3:5-6
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths."

It wasn't long after we returned home with Isabelle in May 2005 that we realized that we had not completed our family yet. As humans, I think we all like to believe we can predict what will happen in our lives, but the wondrous God we serve has the final authority, thank goodness! We prayed hard over the decision to return to China so soon after bringing Isabelle home and we both came to the same conclusion, this child was our daughter. In May 2006, after a paperchase and wait for travel in which God revealed His mighty hand many times, we brought home our sixth child, Sophie Lulu. Just a few days after we returned home with Sophie, we moved from the Midwest to the south. Not long after that Sophie and I got quite sick and spent several weeks recovering. I vividly remember telling my closest friends to smack me in the head if I ever talked about wanting to adopt again. God gave me a few months of reprieve but in July, at my birthday, I began to reflect on my life. What was most important to me? What were the things I valued most? When this life is over, what will I regret doing or not doing? I soon realized that, if God wanted us to open our hearts to another child that I would submit to His will. Soon the idea began to take root and I was certain that He had another little girl in China that was meant for our family -- or was it a boy? Since both our daughters are 'waiting children' (meaning they cannot be referred out by the CCAA through the traditional program due to some medical issue), I had spent many hours learning about the children who wait and wait for a family. Most of the children that wait the longest and sometimes never get adopted are boys. Overwhelmingly, adoptive families prefer girls. Already having the blessing of three boys in a row, I never considered adopting a boy until this time. My heart, once only open to a daughter, began to soften towards the little boys on waiting child lists. All I needed to be certain that this was God’s will for our family was Chris’ complete and unsolicited agreement. A bit easier said than done, Chris was not so sure he was ready to be a dad…again. He was away at pilot training at the time so making this decision was made even more difficult. I asked him to pray about it for a while and then let it go at that. One Sunday afternoon I called him and told him jokingly that I had found the perfect name for our future son. To my complete amazement he said with a laugh, “Okay, call the agency.” God had orchestrated a message at church that morning that had spoken directly to his heart. The pastor talked about God’s provisions and discussed what we, as Christians, were choosing to do with those resources. The pastor encouraged the congregation to search their hearts to see if they were using their assets as God intended. Were we using our resources as a way to help others or following our own agenda? Chris was certain that this was God’s answer to his prayer. In early September we boldly started the paperchase for the son we would bring home.

Luke 12:48
"For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more."

We did not know him, his age, name or special need, but our hearts were already making room. I spent several weeks contacting agencies who would represent us, considering we would need a 'family size waiver' from CCAA, since we don't qualify because of the number of children we have at home. We reviewed a few boys' files but after praying and researching their needs, we realized we were not meant to be their parents. On September 26, we received a surprising phone call from one of the agencies I had been in touch with, Children's Home Society and Family Services in Minnesota. It was Kelly de Rosier, a social worker who had reviewed our home study from Sophie's adoption and she said she had received a new list of waiting children. She went on to say that there was a little boy on this list that she thought was perfect for our family. Obviously, we agreed and soon we were paperchasing with a picture of our beautiful little boy for encouragement and inspiration.

I will lift my voice
To worship You, my King
I will find my strength
In the shadow of your wings

Third Day ~ Your Love, O Lord

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